Health is Social.

"Connection is why we are here, life is about's what brings meaning and purpose to our lives."

~ Brené Brown

Trauma-Informed Relationship Psychotherapy

To heal the war in the world we have to heal the war between the sexes. To heal the war between the sexes we have to heal the war within ourselves

You are the architect of your evolutionary process                                           

The only problem with the worst parts of you is your refusal to accept them

Your conflicts are your greatest teachers. By design they are the very irritant that forms the pearl of your enlightenment

We live in a reflective universe. You get back what you put out.               

When you are feeling triggered, it can often be more about you than the other person.

You cannot heal alone… you can only be healed in the context of the relationship. Relathionships can be healed in the context of community

In any conflict, there are multiple dimensions occurring simultaneously. No one dimension can explain the entire conflict

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the 
barriers within yourself that you have built against it."


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Client Perspectives

  • Joe is an amazing person. Truly listens to what you have to say and communicates clearly. He has great experience with couples and navigates through tough waters.


  • I’ve known Joe for over 10 years and he’s been nothing but an absolute friend especially when needed the most.
    He helped me through losing a 21 year old daughter and while my father was living with Alzheimer’s was very helpful.
    Joe is in my eyes helps by being completely honest.


  • Joe Whitcomb has brought so much healing in my heart. He has allowed me to look at things in a new way that will bring total restoration in my life. I was at the end of my rope before I seen Joe. If anyone has marriage problems, PTSD, hurt childhood. He knows what to do. I am blown away and people have seen the change for the better in me. Thank you Joe Whitcomb so much.


  • Joe not only helped my wife and I in our marriage, but he has become a good friend as well! He helped me personally with my anxiety and patterns that had plagued my relationships for years. He has a humble strength about him and is gifted in helping people want to truly work on their marriage by focusing on what they can only change.....themselves.


  • Joe is a great marriage therapist (we have gone to at least 4 other ones prior to meeting Joe) He takes the time to learn about each individual and understand the marriage dynamics. He was able to help us navigate the issues that married couples sometimes go through. He has giving us hope and taught us how to to not give up on each other. We have learned many techniques that we use on a regular basis to resolve our conflicts. I would recommend Joe to any couple that wants to improve their marriage.


  • The time spent with Joe not only saved my life, it also enhanced my willingness to participate and enjoy my future. Joe has an uncanny way of creating a safe place, one where I felt encouraged to lean in and seek out my personal healing. The topics discussed were often extremely challenging/heartbreaking, and I could not imagine pouring out the recesses of my heart in an environment where true empathy was not exhibited, as is such the case with Joe’s therapy sessions. I am forever grateful.

    DOYIN A.

  • Joe is excellent at what he does. Terrific counselor that understands the areas where I've been struggling for years. . He listens and asks the proper questions so the time is well spent. He takes his time, and has been very generous to help me when life hasn't been going so well. Joe takes that extra effort to understand and he really does care about my life to keep me educated on why I may think or be feeling a certain way. I would highly recommend Joe if you are searching for someone that is compassionate and truly does want to help you work through grief, depression, anxiety, relationship dilemma's and so on....


  • Joe Whitcomb’s wisdom and guidance gave my husband and I the tools to be able to fall back in love. His caring disposition and approach to healing old and new wounds in a marriage worked miraculously for us. RC and I are forever grateful


  • I have been seeing Joe Whitcomb for a couple years now and he is an excellent therapist. He is an outstanding group counselor as well. He helped me realize my worth, understand my trauma, and work through my cognitive distortions. If you are looking for someone who can help you with trauma, family/romantic relationships, and self-worth. Joe is your guy! He is also just a sweet and funny person!


  • Beyond my expectations! I've known Joe Whitcomb when I was both single and in a relationship and his wisdom and candor did wonders for me personally and when I was involved.

    I'm so embedded with his book, "Reboot Your Relationship" it is required reading for any relationship that becomes serious. It's just that good.


  • Joe is a dedicated therapist who really cares about his clients. He is professional, warm and very engaging. I highly recommend him to anyone seeing high level therapeutic support,


  • Dr. Joe is a top notch therapist. He listens well and is personable. His wealth of knowledge is bar none. He was great and has stabilized my children (one has autism) and he has provided mental therapy for my husband and I as well. We love that he can do telephonic/FaceTime sessions. We sometimes drive from Pasadena to see him in office. We highly recommend Dr. Joe!


  • Dr. Joe Whitcomb is not only is a wonderful therapist to talk to but really understands where you’re coming from. His down-to-earth personality and focused approach on understanding my needs and goals made me feel like I was finally being heard. His expertise of EMDR therapy helped me get through a very traumatic experience; and for that, I can’t thank him enough!

    He gave me such amazing advice on how to overcome obstacles I was struggling with as well as resources to refer to on my own time that continue to help me to this day! I have found his support invaluable in staying sane and the strategies and resources he provided have helped me grow, understand myself, and adopt habits that better support my mental health.


  • I highly recommend Joe Whitcomb as his coaching methods make you not only feel heard but also understood. His coaching has had a tremendously positive impact in all aspects of my life.


  • As a minister, I have recommended Joe Whitcomb to many people in our community of couples, and it has always been a very positive experience.

    His experience and wisdom have been such a great source of help for people who are dealing with some of the deeper issues in life as well as for those who want to build a great foundation in their marriages.

    I wholeheartedly believe in the work that Joe Whitcomb is doing, and we are all grateful and blessed for his contribution to our community.


  • Joe Whitcomb is a total pro. I was in a very difficult situation and he completely resolved it in a sensible way that has provided a long-term, lasting solution. The benefit from his work is priceless. I can't recommend him enough. Whether it's Skype or In Person, he is extremely effective. Be sure to contact Joe whenever you run into trouble. I have full confidence he will be able to help.


  • My wife and I did our premarital counseling with Joe Whitcomb over 12 years ago. God centered therapy. To this day we still see Joe. His ability as a therapist and man of God continues to impact our marriage as he has equipped us with viable tools for our relationship. Big Love Joe Whitcomb!


  • I have had the pleasure of working with Joe Whitcomb and can't recommend him enough. He has extensive knowledge, wisdom, and practical experience. More importantly, he has deep empathy and practices kindness and compassion.


  • Joe Whitcomb is very insightful, a good listener, compassionate, and caring. He has given me wisdom that encouraged me and helped me to look at myself through a new and gentler lens.


  • Joe Whitcomb is a man of great compassion and wisdom. He was a light during a very dark time in my life. I am truly grateful for his counsel. He was a Gosend.


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