Ever feel triggered and I stuck in a reactive tailspin despite all your efforts?
It is from this place — this hooked feeling — that we find ourselves responding in less than ideal ways. These are the moments when we may speak with venom, act out, or completely shut down when faced with challenging situations.
It is only later, when we've had the opportunity to calm down and reflect on our actions, that we wonder where we went wrong and how we could have chosen a more grounded response.
Today we are going to focus on learning that we have the power and freedom to Choose Something Different, we will examine and illuminate this nebulous process, clearly identifying where and when you have the opportunity to change your habitual response patterns. . . to choose something different. This is One of the principles and practices in our Reboot Your Relationship workshop we will personally walk you through the landscape of these deep emotional and internal thunderstorms and guide you through the tools to cultivate inner freedom and peace.
What does it mean to be “hooked”?
Maybe it's a comment from a friend about your new shirt or the dinner you just cooked. Maybe it's a look, a glance from a stranger. But something about it sets you off. . .
Your jaw or stomach tightens
Irritation, frustration, or anger begins to arise out of nowhere
Time speeds up
Your mind begins to race
Thoughts about the offending action begin flooding your head — judgments, defenses, accusations...
Whatever you call it . . . You're hooked and your 'Amygdala Hijacked!'
How do you choose something different?
Develop a subtle awareness for what it actually feels like to be “hooked."
Learn how to recognize the feeling when it first arises and “catch it" quicker
Interrupt the momentum of your habitual responses by slowing down your reactions and 'Notice-what-you-are-noticing!'
Establish alternative forms of responding that come from an expansive sense of self-worth, rather than a constricted place of self-protection.
Get the support you need to reinforce this change and make it a new and active part of your life.
Are you ready to get unhooked?
This exercise is a tool to help us discover the underlying emotions and tools needed to cultivate true inner freedom in your relationships.
“Getting to the heart of the matter…”
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